Hello!
I’ve decided to use this platform not just to write sex, or to promote my written sex, but to write about writing sex. So I’ll be doing posts like this one, under the category “Writing Erotica.”
For those who aren’t familiar with me, I write erotic romance for Samhain Publishing as Denise Townsend. At the same time, under my real name, I write mainstream, mass market fiction for a New York publisher.
For those unaware of my real identity (and no, I’m not revealing it here), my books are not romance, but they’re known to have fairly explicit sex for a mass market paperback. That said, what inevitably is left on the cutting room floor when I edit a book is…more sex. I’m a pretty neat, focused writer, so I don’t usually cut a lot, but I always have to cut sex. The fact is, I really like writing the smut. But, at the end of the day, I’m not writing romance, and I am writing for the mass market, so a lot of the nookie has to go.
Indeed, my initial reason for writing erotica was that I thought it would be a good way to use all that snipped away smut, unapologetically, and not have to worry about mass market appeal. I started joking about writing erotica, and then the joke turned serious, and one day I sat down to write.
That’s when the other shoe dropped. I realized that if I wanted to go a more publishable route, I wouldn’t be able to write just erotica…I’d want to write erotic romance.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I love reading romance. But I wasn’t sure if I could write an HEA (a happy ever after ending). The thing is that, when it comes to love, I’m very cynical and a bit of a commitment-phobe. I love the idea of love, but I also don’t feel that love can solve anyone’s problems, and I think a lot of people wind up really disappointed for thinking so.
So what’s a girl, one who wants to write smut and get it published by the sort of company I wanted, to do? This girl started writing, and to her surprise, she found she loved writing romance.
What I did was I told the story I want to tell. It’s about a woman who has a problem in herself, that she can’t see a way out of. But she’s ready for change. And then I made the man (the selkie) in the novel a catalyst for her own change, rather than imposing the change upon her. In other words, I wrote about a woman overcoming an issue that keeps her from living and loving. The fact that she’s able to live and love again after that change become, in this scenario, her reward, not what she changes for or what changes her.
Writing the second novella, tentatively titled Ocean’s Surrender, was even easier once I’d figured out this formula that made me happy. Again, I have a woman who needs to overcome a trauma for herself, and it’s only by doing so that she can love again. But the love isn’t presented as the thing that will fix her–she has to fix herself for her to be able to love, and reap the benefits of love.
What I think I did, in this scenario, was that I changed the definition of “happy,” to suit myself and my own philosophies, and to present to readers a definition of happiness that I think is healthy and reasonable. Happiness is something we make for ourselves in those times when we’re satisfied with who we are and what we’re doing. No amount of outside influence can make us happy when we’re dissatisfied with ourselves or our lot in life. That’s why I depict women confronting themselves, first, and dealing with those issues they’ve been avoiding.
Of course, I do it using sexual therapy, something I don’t think your shrink can prescribe.
Unless you have a very naughty therapist.
My message here for writers of erotica is to remember that writing shouldn’t be forumlaic. Yes, romance has to have an HEA, and if you think of that proscribed ending as a formula it may stunt your creativity.
Instead, I think of the required romance conventions as a recipe. For those that cook, you know that the best way to follow a recipe is not to follow it. Instead, you do the things you need to do to make yourself, the people eating your cooking, and your kitchen happy. So you might add a few ingredients, or take a few ingredients out, or adjust the baking time because you know your oven runs hot.
In the same way, writing romance is best thought of as a recipe. I like a little extra female empowerment, a little soul-searching, and some dirty talk in my erotic romance, so I add a few dashes extra of these things, while taking out what I don’t like as much.
The results make me happy, and I hope they make my readers happy as well. But the best thing about recipes is that they can be adjusted, to suit your own tastes and the tastes of those eating.
Now that I’ve beaten the recipe metaphor into a pulp (which can be breaded and fried!), I’ll leave you be. Let me know if you enjoyed this, and please ask me any questions you have below. Also, feel free to request I write about an aspect of erotic romance writing that makes you curious, and I’ll try my best to get to it. See you back here soon for another Wank Wednesday!